First and foremost…. Feliz Dia de Independencia!! Today is Mexico’s independence day (No, it’s not May 5th). In case you didn’t know… I’m half Mexican. According to my mother, I’m 51%. Now, on to today’s post….
It’s not just styles that have changed over the years, it’s attitudes. Thank god. Not sure which started the change first, but they’ve both evolved into something I really enjoy… Women who don’t wear dresses every day, choose careers they want and most importantly, live a lifestyle independent from their husbands. The last point is the most important. Keep up with me…
I have an idea brewing that I’m both excited and nervous about. I’m considering moving to Hawaii for six months to a year. For just a little while I want to do nothing but hike, swim and work. I want to buff up my portfolio with both personal and client work. Ideally, I move back to L.A., free from the ’9-5′ routine, rent a cool studio space and work for myself.
You might be asking why such a drastic move? Can’t you do that here? The answer is why not and no, respectively.
The world we live in (most of us) is one where we get jobs to pay the bills and then pile on more bills, get stuck in the jobs to continue paying those bills. Then, we have a kid and pile on more bills. Then, because we had a kid we need a mortgage. You see where this is going….. We don’t have the kid or the mortgage yet, but we do have all the bills, rent, student loans, etc. There is no way to free ourselves from all the bills unless we just decide to stop paying them, which isn’t an option.
Currently Lamont and I both need our ’9-5′ jobs to pay the bills, but we’re both working toward our dream jobs which don’t include a boss in the traditional sense. It took me a little while to figure out exactly what I wanted to do and for Lamont, having a career in writing takes years of dedication before it pays off. We’re both close, but not quite there. Our dream is not to be rich, but simply to do what we love every day and maybe even add a baby to the mix.
I used to very much be the person I described above. I was raised to get married, have kids, score a great ’9-5′ and just be “responsible”. Over the last few years, I have discovered not only different areas of design, but different lifestyles. I never imagined so many people could love what they do and not have to work for someone in order to pay the bills. I’m no longer this person, but now I’m stuck in the routine of ’9-5′ jobs and living in an expensive city that really doesn’t leave room to financially switch things up.
Since we don’t have kids yet, I would like to move “off-grid” (not really off grid) and unload all the responsibilities that city life requires (i.e. a car). I want to move somewhere beautiful, live on a super small budget and just work. Since I can do the work I want to do from anywhere, this sounds like the perfect plan. And ideally, I want to do this with Lamont. But Lamont is a writer (film/TV) and needs to be in L.A. He hasn’t decided 100% not to come with, but we both feel that it’s not a great idea for him. So, here’s where it gets tricky and not just a super fun, adventurous idea… Do I go alone?
Lamont and I entered into this marriage promising never to hold each other back. That’s not what we believe a marriage should be. That being said, I would like to ask all of you wonderful readers…. What do you think? Would you do it?
P.S. The title of this blog post comes from my father. Love him to death and respect him and my mother for putting all three of us through college, working really hard to do it and giving up a life of art (my mother wanted to do Interior Design and my father was an illustrator). But that life just isn’t for me. His opinion on all of this is that I’m part of a generation of misfits who have signed off.
Yes, yes I am. And proud of it!